Don’t compare yourself to others, compare yourself to your past self.

If I choose to do something later, put it physically in the way.

Trash needs taking out, but I’ll do it in the morning? Put it in front of the door.

It is both a reminder and an obstacle to overcome.

Immediately tossing negative/intruding thoughts when i think them. It took a year or two to start doing it so naturally i didn’t even realize i was doing it.

Huge game changer with depression, and just life in general.

1. Meditating (not very good at it, but getting better and it’s seriously helping)
2. Blocking Reddit on my router, blocking political communities in Lemmy
3. A consistent, normal sleeping schedule (a bedtime routine is more important than a morning routine, imo)
4. Yoga every morning to help my body work with me throughout the day
5. Reading more books
6. Getting outside more often
7. Paying closer attention to the thoughts that cross through my mind and stopping them when they’re not helpful - this also helped me realize the underlying anxiety that’s been with me for who knows how many years
8. Drinking more water

Edit: Oh I also:

• Quit drinking alcohol, almost at the 1 year mark
• Quit smoking weed, almost at 2 months fully sober now

I did these things one at a time, not everything at once. Mostly just sharing what I did here, but if you plan to do the same - listen to yourself. Start with #7 imo so you get a better idea of what you’re up against. If it feels like too much, take a step back and slow down. You’re not failing when you do this, you’re helping your future self not fail entirely.

Using a calendar religiously.

Disabled the Shorts section on YouTube with an extension. Drastically reduced spaced out doomscrolling.

“Perfect is the enemy of good enough” This changed my view about so many things: Exercise, it’s fine if I don’t go 100% everyday. Work, it’s perfectly fine to negotiate agreements. Etc.

Taking walks. It made me more aware of how isolation changed my perception of the world.

Things are uglier now that I’m no longer used to it. The garbage, the decay, the lack of maintenance everywhere, things feel unclean. I feel unclean.

So I try to be cleaner and look after my own garbage. But man do I hate random people sneezing around me!

“Achievement unlocked! You now have Mysophobia! Your prize is a pack of tissues.”

Taking walks

Sorry this is unedited because I’m on a train, winding its way through Fukushima at the moment.

Let’s go the Moc masterlist:

• Drinking coffee black. Used to think that I wouldn’t like coffee without milk and coffee. Turns out I love it, just needed a few weeks to wean myself off sugar and milk and learn to enjoy it. Lost heaps of weight by doing this.
• Weightlifting three times a week. Gaining muscle mass helped me look and feel good in my 20s and now 30s. I was never a good looking teen, but now in my 30s I get compliments from people pretty frequently.
• Losing weight. I have sleep apnea. Losing weight is the single most effective treatment for it.
• Getting jaw surgery. I have TMD, and this constricts my breathing at night. As part of my orthodontic treatment, I opted to get my jaw extended by 7mm. This was very expensive, but I’m in a high paying profession and I’m good at saving. Between this and losing weight, I sleep much better and don’t snore at night. I never used to feel like I ever got any rest.

Getting my ADHD treated

Getting medicated. I have ADHD. If you’re clever enough, you can brute force your way through the entire education system; school, undergrad, and postgrad without realising you have ADHD. It’s only after a couple of years in a demanding profession (SWE in my case) that I realised I needed help. I was prescribed Ritalin (methylphenidate hydrochloride) and the difference is night and day.

Because I don’t have to wrangle my brain into submission the entire day, I’m no longer completely mentally exhausted after 4 hours of work. I can focus for long hours now and feel pretty normal at the end of the day.

Dealing with high cholesterol Listening to scientists instead of keto idiots. I went to my GP for the third year in a row for my physical and got told I have the highest cholesterol of anyone in their 30s he had ever seen (I was 31).

He wanted to immediately put me on statins, because he had never seen someone with my level of cholesterol who didn’t have familial hypercholesteroloeamia. I asked him if he could give me six months to try and fix it through diet.

I had been following fitness influencers, and had lost 10kg cutting calories and eating heaps of beef, butter, and eggs. I cut that out, and upped my plant protein, lean poultry, and fish protein instead. I feel and look heaps better, and am still gaining muscle at about the same rate I was before. I just try and eat heaps of fibre (veggies) and aim for about 100g of protein a day.

I went for my most recent physical and have the cholesterol of a normal person now. Doctor isn’t trying to put me on statins anymore. I couldn’t believe it.

Deciding to be an optimist

I, like my late father, was a pessimist. My whole extended family is and was locked in generational poverty. I took advantage of my intelligence and work ethic and got into university, but my pessimistic attitude towards life persisted. And it seriously limited me.

I had to actually decide to be optimistic, and believe in myself before things got better. I won’t go into too much detail on this, but my outlook is that;

Pessimists are more mentally prepared for hardship, but optimists and more emotionally prepared for hardship. Maybe, It’s better to weigh the risks, and still take risks than forever be risk-averse.

Years of pessimism grinding my spirit into a pulp has beaten this into me. It’s only by adopting an optimistic outlook, working hard, and taking risks that I managed to finally achieve a better life.

What I’m working on

At the moment I’m trying to get into the habit of journaling, and quit coffee (drinking green tea instead).

I need to do better with mental habits such as journalling, not browsing Reddit and YouTube, and doing hobbies such as writing and reading instead of playing video games.

Enjoying the menial tasks. I enjoy sweeping because of it, it’s very meditative. My grandfather used to love it and I see why now.

Drinking primarily water instead of sodas.

Getting rid of victim mentality. This is the biggest curse you can put on yourself (that being said I’ve not tried heroin).

I stopped putting blame on people. I focus on the grand scheme of things - not the individuals involved in it. The list of people I have negative thoughts about throught the week is zero long.

I found Jesus. Well, he actually found me. Just kidding, it’s booze. Don’t take this world too seriously. It’s an actual joke. Focus on doing the right thing, everything gets much clearer.