• andros_rex@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    I spent almost a decade of my life in TPE. Please do not lecture me about BDSM.

    The acts themselves are not inherently submissive, and most kinksters I knew were uncomfortable with that suggestion.

    I am deciding to express my discomfort with the terminology - that’s a decision I can make. I am a bottom, and submissive even! But I could also present the activity as dominant - in that I am lying back and expecting someone to provide me with pleasure. I have even “topped” individuals in a submissive way.

    The meme is clearly presenting receptive anal sex as inherently degrading, which is a common narrative.

    • enbyecho@lemmy.world
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      5 days ago

      Who’s lecturing you? How are you being lectured?

      At least we seem to agree. I’d have taken that as the opposite of a lecture. But hey, whatevs.