• MissJinx@lemmy.world
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    My mom has 3 different china cabinets and more glasses than the royal family. We only use the ones in the kitchen and maybe 4 in the new years.

    The other day she said ahe would sell one of the sets, a very old time like tea set, but see that set was the last gift my granpa gave my grandma before he died and they are both gone…and my mom is getting older… and I had a anxiety attack thinking that she would get rid of that and started crying.

    I think stuff Is just stuff, but idk man, it did hurt. Boy I’ll have a bad time the day i have to get rid of those fucking glasses.

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      Step 1: Take pictures so that you can look back when you want to. The items are gone, but the memories are not. Step 2: Give them to someone who will appreciate them. Tell them the story so they can truly know what they meant to your family.

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          I’ll probably do this. China and glasses break, speacilly when is used. At least I wpuld feel like the stuff served it’s purpuse and tbf in my house plates, glasses and cups break like once a week hhHahHhh

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          My friend has a set of napkins that is so important that they have never been used. Drives me bonkers.

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            Am I your friend?

            So, weird similarities…I have a bag of napkins, like, the paper ones that you but from the store. I guess my dad bought them years ago and they just sat in his room, never used. After he passed, I figured, hey - free napkins.

            I can’t bring myself to use them because they smell like his room.

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              This sounds like a completely reasonable reason to skip using napkins. I love nostalgia and scent and have a few people I wish I could smell again.

              No, my friend can’t use their napkins because they’re too high quality to be used. Such high quality that they’re never used. But never-used napkins that don’t smell like your late father’s room are not high quality at all. I think they’re effectively worthless.

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      24 days ago

      I bought a set of 4 matched plates off eBay. It may be shallow consolation but some of those plates and what-not go to loving homes. My plates are classy AF and I love them

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    When my mother dies and I have to deal with all her crystal, I’ll get roaring drunk and spend the night smashing those useless fucking things in the fire, cackling like a madman. I fucking hated looking at all that money spent on utterly worthless sparkly shit.

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        Spoiler alert: they’re probably not buying mass produced China sets even if they are nice.

        Source: me exhausting all avenues of trying to part with vintage China set(s) and replacements.com telling me to politely fuck off.

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      Mum pushing us her useless and now worthless silver crap. Nah thanks, I’m not slaving over polishing stupid fancy forks.

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          Sadly most of this boomer junk is just coated and doesn’t have much silver in it otherwise yep, chuck it into Mount Doom for some cash.

          Mum is already doing it with the jewelry so at least that’s not just sitting there gathering dust.

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    Oh gawd, don’t remind me. My mom already tried selling it and couldn’t find anyone to buy it. Of course, she blames kids these days for not valuing her obviously valuable collection…

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    After my mom died, my dad sold her China to her friend for a nickel. Which is great, because I would have just taken it to the VV Boutique and donated it.

    I kind of miss some of the things my mom had around the house my whole life, but also I’d I kept it all, there wouldn’t be room for my stuff. And I’m not putting Trypticon in a box so I can display some Franklin Mint goose plate.

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    Ok I am an outlier here but honestly I kinda like stuff like that. I’m not gonna pretend it’s worth a million dollars (like they would be cool with you selling it anyway) but real China is actually really pretty and sturdy if you take care of it and has a lot of neat little pieces of history and stories related to it. I like antiques and the look of old stuff.

    However

    My mom once tried to give us old pilsner glasses, and the story was “Grandpa bought them and didn’t like them so they’ve been in this cupboard since then”, and then got really disappointed when I was seeing if a friend of mine wanted one since he’s a real beer guy who might like fancy glasses.

    So yeah if you already have plates, and your family history isn’t as great or interesting to you, don’t feel obligated to keep stuff you don’t like. Donate it (to anything other than goodwill or salvation army) or whatever.

    Edit; the irony was that night I got some china dishes that I didn’t care about. Thanks irony gods

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    My grandad labelled all his tat with little coloured stickers. After he died, his children went round peeling most of their own stickers off so they wouldn’t get lumbered with it.

    Nobody really wants a bunch of nicotine stained nick-knacks. Most of it ended up at the charity shop.

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    I go all out for Halloween. I’ve learned it’s cheaper to buy Garage sale/thrift store stuff like this for creepy decorations, than it is to get stuff from Halloween stores or even the dollar store sometimes. I have the coolest “potion” bottles made of old decanters. The massive influx of stuff that came into thrift stores after covid started, was awesome, in the most morbid way.

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    Been there. I inherited my maternal grandfather’s machinist toolbox. Had exactly one micrometer and two leveling blocks. The box itself was worth more. Old wooden kennedy. Wound up hockin it for gas money a couple years after getting it

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    Tastes change. As Millennials get older, have kids, buy large houses, they’ll want to fill them. All it’ll take is a couple of social media influences to bring back such kitch. I can’t believe that redneck beards have been in vogue for so long, but they came back from the slimy grave of the 70s.