• EndlessApollo@lemmy.world
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    30 days ago

    A big one I’ve heard and kinda experience myself is that most porn is made for men. Most straight porn is made to appeal to straight men, and so is most lesbian porn, and of course gay porn is generally made for gay men. Porn by and for women does exist, but it’s a lot less common outside of written erotica

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        More kissing and cuddling. More romance.

        But that’s a generalization, it’s going to depend on the woman.

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        As a woman, mutual enjoyment. Like it needs to look like they’re actually having fun. And that goes extra for stuff like bdsm porn where there’s been enough monstrous shit that got by (honestly I really don’t consume bdsm porn much outside of places where I feel it’s safe to assume mutual enjoyment because of this despite being very into it irl).

        Also on the lesbian porn part, I want to see women that look and act like they’re actually having lesbian sex. Like, a woman who doesn’t skip arm day, being playful then doing some muff diving.

        I mostly read my porn for a reason.

        ETA: also the misogyny in a lot of porn is a massive turn off. Especially because it’s often unprompted.

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            Is there muff diving in it? I get what you’re saying but I want the emotions and to watch two people fucking. If you’ve seen season 2 of arcane there’s a scene that was very nice and if it kept going from the “tv sex scene” and into the pornographic it would’ve been excellent. I’ve also seen some avant garde feminist porn from like the 70s that involved actresses directing and everyone on set being naked to ensure nobody was more vulnerable than anyone else and it was pretty hot.

            And yeah I do love some good pornographic literature. It allows for a scene to be set effectively and with a good writer it’s not much worse than had it been video. Like sure I’d love to see people doing it, but ok cliterature is far better than ok video

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    • Women are stimulated by porn, but from what I gather they have a higher level of “disgust” to overcome
    • Women are stimulated by visual things like a good looking bod
    • Women in general have lower levels of wanting to smash everything, it’s not much deeper than that
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    I didn’t hate it but it’s awfully fake and plastic. Then I watched a few videos this girl posts on Reddit where her husband sets up gang bangs with huge crowds of men for her, and she’s just so dead eyed and visibly just trying to get it over with because he’s making her, while all these men just use her and she just sort of lays there with no facial expression, and despite her captions on her posts that she just loved it, it was super depressing to me and I stopped watching any of it at all. I also think poorly of BDSM but I won’t get into the details as some people on here got upset at my opinion before.

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      It is incredibly disgusting to force or even gently push someone into doing something sexually related that they are not really into.

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        Like it’s so sad to me. She seems so detached from everything she is doing, and the men are just using her while she just waits it out. I hope someone helps her.

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    30 days ago

    Most male female porn is pretty aggressive and frankly patriarchal. A lot of the female female porn is made for a male audience but is still preferable to other women I know and myself, than male female porn, because of that aggression in hetero porn. As a trans woman and a lesbian, I can’t really speak for gay porn. I haven’t watched much of it. But I know some women enjoy it.

    And just like men, women have their own tastes.

    All of that said, the female sex drive is very different than men’s. And I’m sure it affects how much porn we end up consuming.