I’ve had female friends and I’ve had male friends but for some reason I’ve noticed that females are more intimate and close to there friends then males are. Is this true for all male friends?

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    1 month ago

    I’m generally more open with female friends than male friends. There’s one friend that I’ve become more open with but that’s because we’ve been friends for over 15 years. Growing up taught me that showing emotion was weak and not what I was supposed to do. I was very sensitive as a kid and learned to hide and intellectualize my feelings rather than feel them

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    30 days ago

    My friends’ humour is extremely homoerotic and we constantly simulate gay sex (as a joke)

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      Not really. It’s been 70/30. I have some male friends and there pretty intimate. Always doing things like slapping my butt and giving me sexual compliments/wolf whistling at me. At first it was pretty awkward then I thought to myself “what’s the problem?” There only complimenting you and there not exactly wrong😏.

      But now I don’t know if there just being friendly or if there flirting with me. I’ve had women say similar things to me before.

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        1 month ago

        I say this in the gentlest way possible: you keep writing “there” when you mean “they’re” or “their” and it’s making it hard to read your posts.

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    I’m (m) somewhat “intimate” with my friends I’ll hug and stuff. But I’ll play it off as a joke half the time depending on who. I was fortunate enough to have made really great friends in high-school that I can be more friendly and am secure enough that if anyone said anything it wouldn’t phase me

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      1 month ago

      Adding on to this, I’m more secure when we’ve had more to drink so a “drunken hug” is more acceptable

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    Some are, I’m not a man but I have male friends and we’re very intimate and close, hug and cuddle each other, express our affection and our emotions openly

    Ofc I have had the “bro” type of male friends, where it seems they feel like we can’t do that kind of stuff even if we do rly care for each other :(

    It’s much better in queer and queer-friendly spaces ime

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    I think it would be hard to nail down the overall demeanor. Of course there’s the stereotype that men are closed up emotionally and sometimes male toxicity enforces that, but I think it really just comes down to how people develop emotionally and if they feel secure to trust others with those emotions.

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    1 month ago

    yes, we’re not all incels and taters and fundamentalist wannabe strong men