It doesn’t matter. Pronounce it either way because it’s acceptable.

Language is fluid and communication is about understanding the intent of what you’re saying. If someone doesn’t know what you mean by pronouncing it either way, then they are being obtuse and need a quick punch in the dongle.

Both. I feel like one of them always tends to fit the conversation better than the other, but which one that is seems to be totally random.

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